Tuesday, September 1, 2009
The Pleasure Principle
I have been known to laugh a lot, but I had dinner with friends a few nights ago and laughed until my eyes were blurry with tears. I discovered that four is a powerful combination which might have been the reason that Sex and the City was so popular--the connection when women click. None of us were wearing Christian Louboutins and no one was like any of the women in that show; except now I am a bit like Carrie Bradshaw in the moments that I liked best - when she deciphered human psyches in front of her.
Sexual innuendos were organic that night. Funny and serious. The thing is, that sex is supposed to be so taboo, and in the United States where its taboo nature runs rampant, we are amateurs. European and Asian films touch on and SHOW things that no matter if they put a NC-17 on an American film, it would be Sesame Street compared to these movies.
There is no problem showing a torture porn. I went to see the movie Lust, Caution where there ended up being about twelve people in the theater. Yet the line almost out of the door of the theater was for Saw IV. At the time, a young woman explained to me the draw of the film. I preferred lust I guess.
At dinner we were laughing, me laughing so hard and the guests at the other tables watching us, it became voyeuristic. Voyeurism comes with any pleasure I think. There is something provocative to people when they see pleasure, maybe that is the thing.
Is pleasure such a hard thing to fathom? Such a hard thing to witness? Once, in a more intimate setting with one other friend at another dinner, I had a woman frown at me because I was laughing. She was eating at Veselka where the food is so good when I eat there alone I am not distracted by other people's conversation at all.
I learned pleasure is a very powerful thing. It was a pleasurable evening with friends. Maybe the pleasure aspect is why anything erotic is such a hot button. Words, images, whatever.
I also learned at dinner that molten chocolate cakes provide a great deal of pleasure.