By Mari Miller-Lamb
The bubble of my greatness burst a little (but only a little) when of my English professors made the remark of "Didn't they teach you to write in high school?" and handed back one of my compositions with a "C" and told me to go back and proof read my work. But she had it in for me or was jealous of my huge writing talent or something. And it didn't matter anyway because I still managed to pull and A in that class. The woman just didn't know what she was talking about. Then one of my guy friends was slightly critical of a piece I wrote for the school newspaper. The fool!!! Did he really think I would be his girlfriend after that remark?! Disgusted with his lack of insight and his utter failure to appreciate true talent, I scorned his friendship and sought out the approving comments of the people in my life that would affirm my greatness, my beautiful prose, the poetry of my writing.....and stroke my enormous ego.
Yeah, but here's the thing: You need the critical kind of friend too. And even worse, if all you've had your whole life is affirmation and reassurance of your greatness, you will never ever grow as a writer. Trust me on this one. I've been there. I remember reading a story about two actors who had been in a play. One actor was fretting about the forthcoming reviews. The other actor turned to him and said: "My dear boy, it's not the bad reviews you should be scared of."
If you think about it, he's right.♥
BIO: Mari Miller-Lamb is an unpublished writer, shopping around her first historical romance to publishers with no expectations of marketing on their part at all.