Do we have soul mates? How would we know them? Is it instant attraction, the unexplainable knowing of a person the first time you meet, karma, or all of these things?
According to the Urban
Dictionary, a soul mate is “a person with whom you have an immediate connection
the moment you meet -- a connection so strong that you are drawn to them in a
way you have never experienced before. As this connection develops over time,
you experience a love so deep, strong and complex, that you begin to doubt that
you have ever truly loved anyone prior.” In addition to this, “your soul mate
understands and connects with you in every way and on every level, which brings
a sense of peace, calmness and happiness when you are around them. And when you
are not around them, you are all that much more aware of the harshness of life,
and how bonding with another person in this way is the most significant and
satisfying thing you will experience in your lifetime. You are also all that
much aware of the beauty in life, because you have been given a great gift and
will always be thankful.”
As someone who enjoys
reading and writing romance stories, this sounds like the perfect match of the
hero and the heroine who are fated to be together. Yet, we know that life isn’t
a romance novel, and love isn’t all smooth sailing. However, I think there is
something to be said for the possibility of fated love and kindred spirits.
When I met my husband in
high school, I felt a strong pull which felt beyond the normal hormonal rages
and attraction of late adolescence. It’s a connection that I still feel to
this day, decades later, despite many changes and experiences.
In experiencing hypnotic
past life regression, I encountered not only my husband in another lifetime but
also other members of my family. It explained some of the relationships and
issues I’ve encountered in the present lifetime.
This idea both
fascinated me and inspired me to write about the possibilities of reincarnation
and soul mates for my paranormal romance, SACRED FIRES, where the doomed lovers
from ancient Aztec Mexico are reunited in present day Mexico to solve a
mystery, pay a karmic debt, and fall in love again. I have also used the idea
as snippets in other books including my recent young adult novel, A KISS OUT OF
TIME. Although that is primarily a ghost story featuring a psychic teen, there
is mention of finding one’s soul mate when Georgina, the teenage psychic,
considers her own romantic involvement with fellow ghost hunter and best friend
Jake.
I’m not sure how it happens, but I’ve come to believe in the
possibility of soul mates or fated love as well as the concept of kindred
spirits, people who once knew each other and have a strong but not romantic
connection from another lifetime. I’ve witnessed this with friends who feel more
like brothers or sisters, and perhaps they were in some other lifetime, which
might provide material for future stories.
So, if you ever wonder about feeling an instant attraction or an
immediate dislike to someone upon first meeting them without any logical
explanation, you might consider the notion of fate, karma, and soul mates. You
might also consider it for your own story ideas. Happy writing!♥
Catherine Greenfeder is the author of
four published novels including SACRED FIRES, ANGELS AMONG US, WILDFLOWERS, and
A KISS OUT OF TIME. She is currently working on a sequel to her young adult
novel and a woman’s mainstream fiction book.
Interesting points. Thanks.
ReplyDeleteGreat post. Loved KISS OUT OF TIME!
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